When transition is forced upon us or comes by personal choice, making it to the other side requires that we navigate with courage and determination. Sometimes, we must anguish and hurt over something that happens to us, or around us, and we feel bartered and battered and yet, we might be in the process of growing deeper and wiser.
You can’t stop the future, you can’t rewind the past.
The only way to learn the secret…..is to press “play.”
It takes one event (only minutes) to change someone’s lifestyle. It happens to most of us sometime. Perhaps it’s in person or a phone call, an e-mail or a conversation. Sometimes it’s simply an awareness. Sometimes a lifestyle is enhanced and sometimes it’s painful.
In my own life, there have been many experiences since the last time I wrote a newsletter. I went into 2017 determined to assess where I was at this moment in time. What belonged to my past and how did I want to plan for my future?
Incredible change happens in your life when you decide
to take control over what you do have power over
instead of craving or yearning for what you don’t control.
My awareness in my first six months of 2017 was how to personally slow down and reflect on my lifestyle. Mostly, those months were filled with relaxation, travel, meditation and lots of reflecting. My lessons were slow and accumulative. I learned that my connections with people were best served by in person phone calls and visits. (Even though I didn’t even do my cell phone for several months). I honored my learning that I wanted e-mail connection with family and friends and it had great value, but that most social media was not for me. I also honored the idea of a cell phone and all it could do for me and those I love.
This was a big change in my lifestyle (one that was connected electronically to thousands of people). I simplified my life dramatically in May and June and vowed to invest in richer relationships (but fewer) with family and friends. My connections thrived.
My second big life altering event this year was a major serious accident (mid summer) that resulted in hospitalizations, rehab and learning how to become totally powerless and then come back to recovery. It has taken the rest of the summer and now into fall to recover.
The connections through postal mail and e-mails and in person have given me strength, courage and hope. My “new normal” continues as a peaceful, contented lifestyle and my urgency to connect, to answer and to reach out is dimmer and dimmer. I have many friends, much intimacy and I love it. Discretion and choices are a very big gift. They do not come without loss and grief however. Learning to navigate major losses are a part of life. I continued to learn that inner peace and contentment is worth the loss and grief. Life is a series of “letting go” events and relationships and when doing so, we find serenity and strength. It is not an easy path to heal body, mind and spirit.
The reality if that you will grieve forever about one thing or another.
You will not “get over” anything. You will learn from it.
You will heal and rebuild yourself around the loss you suffered.
You will be whole again, but you will never be the same
nor would you want to.
Adapted from Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
As I go forward, choosing no more public appearances, workshops, social media (except e-mail), website presence, publishing etc., my excitement builds around family and friendship relationships. Thank you to all that have been there for me throughout a 40 + year professional presence. You have been a big part of my energy, my life and helped me become who I am today.
Today, I am happy and content being “me” with all my possibilities, changes, choices and the same 24 hours a day that everyone gets.
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